Embracing Surrender: A Journey into Trust

Are You Ready to Trust the Journey?

Over my life, there have been many moments of surrendered action and a desire to control my reality by knowing all the details.

What I found is that when I try to know all the details, often those tasks, ideas, and goals never get completed because they filter through my conditioned mind, which typically responds with the thought, "Computer says no." Can you relate?

Last week, my wife and I were discussing this phenomenon: Why is it that when we come up with ideas for our business, life, and relationship, the other person often puts a blocker in place? Phrases like, "Let me think about it," "Oh no, let’s do it next week," or just a plain and simple "no" come to mind.

So, my wife suggested we play a game called "Surrendered Action." When one of us suggests an idea, the other has to surrender and trust that idea.

This is similar to how our creative intuition presents us with ideas, only for our own thoughts to stop us from fulfilling our potential.

There I was, waking up on Sunday morning—it's ‘Surrendered Action Day’ and it's your turn, my wife said. My first thought was, "Oh no, how do I get out of this?" But I said, "Okay." She replied, "Get all your gear; the train is at 11 AM," and I had no idea where I was going.

I trusted and surrendered—even when we got to the bus stop and the train station, I could feel the resistance and the urge to know.

I could feel stress creeping in.

A short train journey later, we arrived at Hampstead Heath Ponds, where my wife explained that I would be throwing myself into a freezing cold pond in the pouring rain…

…I stripped down to my shorts—nerves and adrenaline surging—and immersed myself for five minutes, surrendering to the experience, which was both scary and liberating.

When we emerged from the pond, I started to eat and get into warm clothes. We both began talking to a wonderful couple named Lottie and Tom. For an hour, Tom and I engaged in profound conversations about spirituality, ancient wisdom, and the world of coaching.

He was deeply fascinated by our discussion, and I was equally intrigued by his work as an actor and nature enthusiast.

In a world where we all crave meaningful and deep connections, can you surrender to life's experiences? Or do you hold on, grasp, or force life to happen in a certain way?

At the end of our time together, my wife exchanged contact details with Lottie and Tom. Tom messaged me today, reflecting on how heartfelt and meaningful our discussion was.

The lesson of the story: take more surrendered action, even though it might be challenging.

Then, unexplained coincidences and synchronicities can lead you to extraordinary people who may become friends, clients, or introduce you to a whole new world of connections.

I’d love to hear your insights on this, please comment below.

Thanks, Adrian.